PinnedDating through divorceI’ve never enjoyed dating. To me, it’s always been wildly stressful with little payoff. OK, the stories it has given me are priceless. But now, since ending a marriage and not dating in a decade, I’ve discovered that it’s also nothing like riding a bike. I don’t know what I’m…Divorce3 min readDivorce3 min read
PinnedThe ‘little things’ help you leap through divorce“Do we think Nanny is at home or at her Frog’s?” I ask my kids, Archer, 7 and Isla, 4 as we turn the corner, approaching my mom’s house. We’ve been staying here for the past several months, since I left my husband and filed for divorce. Both kids scream…Divorce5 min readDivorce5 min read
PinnedCo-parenting can be sucky and sweetFor the most part, coparenting during a divorce sucks, especially a contentious one. Trying to communicate with a volatile or unresponsive ex-partner about your kids’ needs — whether it be financial, psychological or educational — vacation plans, doctor appointments and sports games can be wildly stressful and emotionally draining. But…Coparenting5 min readCoparenting5 min read
PinnedDivorce-inspired dinners: Cheers to cooking with cucumbersAfter my first divorce-inspired dinner essay, I received several messages from women — some former colleagues, others acquaintances and some friends I hadn’t talked to in years, but all confiding in me about their shitty marriages, fear of leaving and desire for validation. This is to say that divorce was…Divorce4 min readDivorce4 min read
PinnedDinner and a divorce“You’ll feel better in two years,” every divorced person I know tells me, which is a lot by the way. Some follow up with dumb advice like, “Focus on self-care when you don’t have the kids,” or “Learn something new, like how to play the ukulele or maybe a foreign…Divorce3 min readDivorce3 min read
Aug 8The crazy ways we cope with break-ups“Men like red nail polish,” my mom informs me as we stand in front of a wall of nail polish at a salon, trying to decide on a color for our mani pedis. “Really,” I say, reaching for a bottle of pale pink labeled, “Let Nature Take Its Quartz” and…Divorce3 min readDivorce3 min read
Jul 15Some people suck: Take the high road“Take the high road, Archer,” I tell my 7-year-old son after he tells me about a kid being mean to him at summer camp. This is a far cry from the advice I gave him five years ago when a kid bit him at daycare. Back then, I said, “Tell…Parenting3 min readParenting3 min read
Apr 19Mother-son relationships vs mother-daughter“Mama, I’m so addicted to you,” my 6-year-old son Archer tells me, nearly spooning me, his arms wrapped around my waist. The three of us — Archer, my 3-year-old daughter Isla and I — are snuggling in bed after finishing a bedtime podcast. Before anyone gets bent out of shape…Parenting3 min readParenting3 min read
Aug 5, 2021Six weeks of maternity leave is absurdI went back to work six weeks after giving birth to my daughter, Isla. I was still bleeding. My breasts were still leaking. My hemorrhoids hadn’t healed. My hormones … well, let’s just say they weren’t back to normal. And, of course, Isla wasn’t sleeping and neither was I. But…Mwc Reentry5 min readMwc Reentry5 min read
May 25, 2021I’m not a dog momIt incites me when a woman identifies as a “dog mom” or refers to her pup as her “ four-legged kid” or even worse, “fur baby.” These are a different breed of women, you know? As a mom to two, small humans, the definition of mother holds more weight. …Pets4 min readPets4 min read
